Wednesday, June 19, 2019

Summer and Three Weeks til Abe Leaves

We are now in the thick of summer. It seems like it only just began, but somehow Abe has already been to Moab biking with two of his best friends for his senior trip. We've had a quick "check on the cabin" trip to Bear Lake. Daisy has spent a few days at our cabin with her friends. Abe has attended our stake's missionary training camp that he was asked (months before he'd started his own actual mission paper work) to help head up. Our local parade and fireworks are this very weekend. And the three oldest girls are, as we speak, off at girls' camp. (Penny's first time away from home without either of her parents. She was a little anxious. I've been praying she won't feel homesick, and I'm so glad she has her older sisters with her.)

(Here are a few of Abe's texted pictures from Moab as well as a bunch from our quick Bear Lake trip.)
(Starling has just begun loving to entertain herself by batting and grabbing at her little mobile. When we realized we had nothing for her to bat at up at our cabin, Abe jimmy-rigged her this little mobile out of tape, a kitchen stool, and a few random cabin toys. :))

As I typed this, a friend who is off at camp with my girls just texted me these!

And, of course there has been a lot of routine, run-of-the-mill, ordinary time. Most of my days are overwhelmingly filled with just . . . feeding Starling and getting little people ready and taking care of the demands of our home, etc. In fact, I honestly don't know if life has ever been so completely unrelenting in the demands it's placed on me. And I feel it. But, in the middle of all of those demands, and even when no grand adventures are afoot, it's comforting to see that there are still just . . . kids living out their daily existences in a fairly happy manner!
Here we tried to jazz up a fairly uneventful day with pop-its. There are never enough. Next time I will just need to throw thrift to the wind with my pop-it purchasing. :)
And here this little angel is. Only days away from three whole months!

And the girls. Of their own accord. Off on a hike together. (Goodness seeing them just . . . being friends and choosing to do daily bits of life together makes me so happy! It reminds me of growing up with my own sisters. What a blessing it is -- them having each other!)
And . . . a few other ordinary things from around here:

Summer asked me the other day if she could have one of the Kit Kats we had in the cupboard. Not wanting to incite a riot, I told her she could get one if she could be sneaky. She looked at me sadly and said, "I'm not very good at being sneaky." (Admittedly, it's dreadfully hard to be sneaky when it comes to treats around here. The kids seem to have an acute "someone is eating a treat without me" sense.)

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Mette recently asked me for something and then informed me I better give it to her quickly because, she told me, "I just can't wait very long." That sentence was, perhaps, one of the truest things she has ever said about herself.

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Daisy was recently teaching Anders how to play Clue. When she explained that someone got murdered and we had to discover who had done it, Anders asked, "Murdered? What does murdered mean?"

"It means they got killed," Daisy stated.

"So we have to figure out who got murmured or we have to figure out who murmured? Anders questioned.

Daisy laughed that it was Laman and Lemuel who murmured while I chimed in that it was everyone in our family before correcting Anders on the word.

Then Anders said, "But it's sad that someone got murdered."

And Daisy comfortingly suggested, "Well, OK. Maybe they didn't get murdered. Maybe they just got attacked."

Anders leapt on that alternative. "Oh! I know! Let's say they got an uppercut!"

"OK," Daisy laughed -- shaking her head. "So we have to figure out who got the uppercut and what weapon they used to give them an uppercut."

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Anyway, enough of all of that. All the while that I am typing I feel like there is an elephant in the room. An elephant in this blog post? An elephant in my thoughts? It's there all right. And it seems to me that I can't talk about anything at all without it feeling a bit crowded by this other THING.

Abe leaving.

Three weeks from today.

That phrase: "Three weeks" is so familiar to me. Only . . . it has always and always been in relation to a child COMING. Never before has it been three weeks 'til a child leaves.

And I feel like I am ten again. I'm on the Colossus roller-coaster at Lagoon -- chugging up that steep incline before the inevitable hurtling down the steep other side to zip around slanting corners and zoom through those huge upside-down loops. 

I know all the hills and loops are technically the scary parts, but that hill at the start . . . just edging closer and closer to the real ride ahead . . . that was always the scariest part for me.

Abe ironing all his new white shirts, us going through the temple with him, he and Mike watching a late-night movie together, etc. etc. All of these things -- the readying things, the routine things, and the lasts -- feel just like I'm on that upward hill on the Colossus again.

5 comments:

Linn said...

Oh dear friend, so much in this post, but I just can't think of anything but Abe. Ugh. There is SO much happiness ahead. SO much. But my heart had to nearly shatter in pieces before I could get to that happiness. Yes, peace. Yes, joy. Yes, a sure knowledge it is right. But in the beginning, a huge painful YES to walking away from my child, like it was actually okay for him to leave my arms, my nest and my protection. But how prideful am I to have thought he needed anything but His Father's protection? I guess I just selfishly wanted him to have both.

You are in my prayers. The joy ahead is unreal. But dang it, so is the pain. A lot like labor. And think how incredible you have become at that. How I adore you. Please know how often you are in my mind and heart and how incredible I think you are. Along with that missionary boy of yours. xoxo

Marilyn said...

Well. I read this yesterday. And all the things I wanted to say were so...daunting, I had to go away and come back later. And now that I'm back I'm not able to say them any better. But just...yes, the hill up the roller coaster. THAT really is the scariest and worst part. Always has been for me too.

And because I can't say the big things, I will say the small things: THREE girls at camp together! That is a happy thing. And it's a beautiful place!

This made me wish for a raspberry shake.

And a homemade baby-mobile (which sounds like some sort of baby-powered car...which now I ALSO want).

And a darling little Starling-bird to bat at it.

And a light-drenched cabin counter with people coloring at it.

And enough pop-its for everyone to have all they want. But now I really am just dreaming.

Nancy said...

Oh Linn! It’s so nice to hear from you — knowing you have felt all of this so recently and are feeling it still. And everything you said. Having to be broken to piecesca bit. But the comfort that there is happiness ahead. A woman in my ward was speaking on Sunday about a tender mercy she recently experienced with her missionary son. And I was just kind of frantically praying, “Please please don’t forget me. Please send me some of those experiences!” And I keep reminding myself that it isn’t JUST an ending, but a beginning to other amazing things. Thank you for helping me believe it.

Nancy said...

I have a terrible feeling that I won’t know any of the big things to say when you are sending your own Abe out either! Just like with my dad dying. I STILL don’t know what to say to others experiencing it! But. The small things are always important to hear. Especially when the big things are too big!

Three girls at girls’ camp! Especially not having had sisters of your own, I just feel SO excited for you to keep witnessing all the happiness you have created by giving your girls each other! Especially as they become more independent and still just CHOOSE each other! It’s just the best!

And a baby mobile! Ha! I ought to get Starling the car kind!

Gayle Harris said...

Four beautiful posts!! I loved all of them. And I loved all of the pictures. The posts remind me of when our first missionary left (a son). It was so terribly hard for all of us. Then the next year our oldest daughter left (for a 3rd world country), and that brought with it another level of worries. But there were so many blessings! I have to say, though, that when our 7th missionary left, it really wasn't that much easier. I guess the only solution would be to not love them so much, but that's not possible, so we just have to realize that we'll survive, and there will be compensatory blessings.

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