tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1319454352626199680.post8001537553605417903..comments2024-03-25T13:17:56.636-06:00Comments on A Chicken in the Window Well: Thoughts on LaborNancyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03045958241240870948noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1319454352626199680.post-7196496000886142782008-11-25T20:43:00.000-07:002008-11-25T20:43:00.000-07:00Ignore all those typos in my last comment (and the...Ignore all those typos in my last comment (and there are lots). I'm typing fast and not paying attention to what I'm typing.Nancyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17086417252211755708noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1319454352626199680.post-87602838334018949902008-11-25T20:42:00.000-07:002008-11-25T20:42:00.000-07:00Okay, so you just commented on my blog and it show...Okay, so you just commented on my blog and it showed up in my email and I was son confused about how I'd commented on my own blog without remembering it. Then I realized it was SOMEONE ELSE named Nancy. I've only come across one other Nancy anywhere near my age, most are about 60 now, so this is a treat.<BR/><BR/>As for labor... our experiences seem similar, except I've never been lucky enough to have an epidural, at least not one that worked. But I did have a jerk anesthesiologist, unfortunately he wasn't good at administering epidurals and mine didn't work, he chewed me out for being a wimp and wouldn't believe me that I was no longer numb. My second kid was too quick for an epidural and was almost delivered my nurses if my doctor hadn't walked in just in time. My third was about the same except my doctor knew number two had come fast so she got to the hospital as soon as they called and stuck around waiting. Good luck with this labor/delivery. And stop thinking about the past ones in detail. That would totally freak me out. Just think "I've gone this before. I can do it again. I will not die." That's what I do.Nancyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17086417252211755708noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1319454352626199680.post-11138021395136953052008-11-20T22:42:00.000-07:002008-11-20T22:42:00.000-07:00Yep....I can say with out a doubt that labor scare...Yep....I can say with out a doubt that labor scares the h*ll out of me. I have never experienced it myself but have witnessed it as outsider many times. I was even there when two of my kids were born. <BR/><BR/>I will be praying for a speedy, easy and safe labor for you.Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15740522091681274109noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1319454352626199680.post-21249822548230737782008-11-19T21:51:00.000-07:002008-11-19T21:51:00.000-07:00P.S. And, just to clarify things, I have never scr...P.S. And, just to clarify things, I have never screamed. No, no screamer in me, and none of that yelling or annoyedly pushing my husband away. I think I am far to focused inward and the only thing that comforts me outwardly is Mike super super close doing whatever very strong counter pressure things he can to distract me.Nancyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03045958241240870948noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1319454352626199680.post-86053909896376847002008-11-19T21:46:00.000-07:002008-11-19T21:46:00.000-07:00Jami, I totally have a jogstroller that you can ho...Jami, I totally have a jogstroller that you can hop in if you're willing.<BR/><BR/>Marz, I agree, I am glad I had the experience, and I totally agree that the veil seems thin with the whole connection between two places happening. AND, I'm so glad also you survived your last scary experience! You've always been so positive and grateful despite how things went down.<BR/><BR/>Kristen, that is a good question. I think your mom said that pushing is a relief -- maybe because you can actually do something besides mearly cope -- you can work with contractions. I still found it to be quite awful, but I think, maybe, it is really the very last bit of dilation and the very beginning of pushing that is the very most terrifying. Once you are focused on the pushing maybe it's better. BUT, you could do it natural of course. Women have forever and you would have the best coach in your mom, and while it is very super awful, it really is interesting and empowering, and seriously somehow spiritual (more later) to think about the connection between our world and where this baby is coming from and the struggle to bring them here -- for both of you. My main advice to anyone would be that it is worth it ONLY if it is something you really really feel like you WANT to do because I also think epidurals are for certain a blessing from heaven!Nancyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03045958241240870948noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1319454352626199680.post-91990096421403552472008-11-19T21:12:00.000-07:002008-11-19T21:12:00.000-07:00Don't ya just love good labor stories? I do! You...Don't ya just love good labor stories? I do! You remember our friend Rachel who came with her new baby to Ashley's shower? She DID get to the hospital too late for her epidural, and she was so panicked when the nurses said she couldn't have any pain relief. She found out she is a screamer. :) So doesn't that sound fun. But tell me honestly, Nance, is the end, the actual pushing out, awfully horrible? When I was laboring with Ethan, my epidural only took on one side, and even though kind Joe Torman kept coming back and adjusting things, it wasn't until right when I was about to push that I actually felt full relief. And afterwards I thought, that wasn't too unbearable, feeling all those contractions, maybe I could go natural on my next one. You know, I kind of just want to know if I can do it. But I didn't have to feel all the pushing part, and maybe that's the worst, so maybe there's no way I could do a totally natural birth. What are your thoughts? It's pretty likely my mom will be here for the birth, since Ashley and I aren't planning to let her leave after she comes to visit for Ashley's baby, so I would have the best ever birth coach, right? One who's done natural 5 times. Could I do it, or am I crazy?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1319454352626199680.post-89219667926293289882008-11-19T18:35:00.000-07:002008-11-19T18:35:00.000-07:00O that is such a cute picture. And speaking of a f...O that is such a cute picture. And speaking of a fun journal ebtry for your kids to be all like I did what I weighed what ?<BR/>Anyway, don't be wishing that baby to come to soon. I have to be there!!!!<BR/>Josh told me with Layla that he would break my water if I didn't go into labor while his mom came to help with the kids, because my DR. was all anti "starting".<BR/>Well I about killed my poor husband when he fessed up at the chosen time that he didn't know how to break and my water and felt it was to dangerous.......I was one angry achey heavy pregnant girl.....Mugsyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13030215017842950639noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1319454352626199680.post-3403064101139180692008-11-19T12:18:00.000-07:002008-11-19T12:18:00.000-07:00Additionally - While a lot of people think that "n...Additionally - While a lot of people think that "natural birth" is craziness - I think it's awesome!!! I wish I could have done it. In fact, when I found out that I wasn't allowed that option - I cried (silly much? Maybe). I think it's pretty cool that you have had that experience and that in such things - you hold hands with women of the past. Pretty neat. I also love to think of all those who are with us in such times - on the other side of the veil - helping the doctors, nurses, family members, spouses, the new baby, etc. Such a special time.<BR/>-MarzeeWomen Afirehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07146061941693142120noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1319454352626199680.post-35863048894901950882008-11-19T12:12:00.000-07:002008-11-19T12:12:00.000-07:00Good stories. I don't have much to compare - as I...Good stories. I don't have much to compare - as I didn't feel anything for any of my babies (hello C-Section!). Though, did have a bit of a scare on the last one - but even with that - I was oblivious to everything until the emergencies were done with and I woke up. So nice. Poor Jon was a mess, but I was all bright eyed and cheerful saying, "Hey babe! How are ya?" And he was like . . . ."Ummm, 4 hours of not knowing if you were going to be okay kinda sucked." So - I love childbirth! And can't help but get teary eyed when they hand me that baby!<BR/>-MarzeeWomen Afirehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07146061941693142120noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1319454352626199680.post-26569861120869987992008-11-19T10:44:00.000-07:002008-11-19T10:44:00.000-07:00nancy,if i were there megan would have to push me ...nancy,if i were there megan would have to push me in some sort of cart because as much as i want to do the running thing, i just can't. i think it stems back to a bad middle school p.e. running experience. (ok. maybe not, but i can hope that's why i don't like to run. :) )jami v.https://www.blogger.com/profile/07312950633716123483noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1319454352626199680.post-81395245447433457682008-11-18T13:44:00.000-07:002008-11-18T13:44:00.000-07:00Oh, a comment from you too Shan! Well, thanks also...Oh, a comment from you too Shan! Well, thanks also. You only just appeared this moment. I still like that it is now a little question as to who will know the gender of their baby first out of the two of us!Nancyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03045958241240870948noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1319454352626199680.post-86061081457133833272008-11-18T13:43:00.000-07:002008-11-18T13:43:00.000-07:00Thanks Tia and Jami, I don't know why, but I can a...Thanks Tia and Jami, I don't know why, but I can always tell you guys genuinely like me and are happy for me in your comments and it makes me love you.<BR/><BR/>And Tia, I agree with no hesitation, that I would take a natural labor with all its misery to keep my perfectly unsick first tri-mesters. Ooohh, I am so sorry for you sick ones!! (Jami, why won't you tell us if you are sick!!)BUT, I would run a full marathon any day over a natural labor (assuming of course you were rewarded a baby at the end of the race).<BR/><BR/>As for babies size, mine have luckily only all been around the nice 8 lb. mark. I do mean luckily, because Mike's sisters all have 9 and 10 pounders and my own mom had some whoppers herself.<BR/><BR/>And yes, Tom Turkey will be his name.<BR/><BR/>Whatever, Jami, if you were here, you know Megan would force you to run it with us like it or not!Nancyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03045958241240870948noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1319454352626199680.post-64416170026791799132008-11-18T13:39:00.000-07:002008-11-18T13:39:00.000-07:00i have known these stories but loved reading them ...i have known these stories but loved reading them again and am very interested to see if this little one comes as quickly. and of course i am so excited to see if it is my niece or nephew. i'm so glad its coming so soon!Perlahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12956852960780300948noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1319454352626199680.post-73439791409063059322008-11-18T13:06:00.000-07:002008-11-18T13:06:00.000-07:00oh i so feel for you - and i'm so amazed and in aw...oh i so feel for you - and i'm so amazed and in awe that you did the natural thing not once but twice. thinking about going without some sort of drugs during labor makes me shake. i'm going to cross my fingers that this little one is going to surprise you and come early - ready or not. :)<BR/><BR/>can i just also say that i think you and meg are nuts for turkey trotting? sheesh. you girls are too ambitious for me ... although i do remember seeing your cute little prego self running around n.o. when we were neighbors and being jealous of your runner self. :) <BR/><BR/>my favorite - aside from the great stories - are those cute prego bellies ... :)jami v.https://www.blogger.com/profile/07312950633716123483noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1319454352626199680.post-48969560412595162502008-11-18T12:51:00.000-07:002008-11-18T12:51:00.000-07:00Oh Nancy, I read your little scenarios with such a...Oh Nancy, I read your little scenarios with such attentiveness and excitement over what will soon be yours! Remember how it was not so long ago that you were telling bloggerdom that you were feeling a little under the weather and we were such new friends and I wondered, wondered, if you could be pregnant but nah, you had a little one so very young still and then like a day later you announced to all that you were preggers and wanting, what was it? Potato Salad? Yes, I think it was potato salad because then we went into the whole comment conversation about all the in-laws and their aversion to mayo. But now as I sit and contemplate all that will be yours in a few short days/weeks I get all excited for you and not the least bit anxious about your labors because really, all I can think to say is that I would birth my babies 10 times over than to have to deal with the being sick at the beginning part!<BR/><BR/>And I'm just saying now that if you go into labor from all your turkey trotting, because as you have just stated very poinginatly (and that is not at all how to spell that but I don't care) things are not always the same for you so if you do go into labor after trotting around on Thanksgiving are you going to name the baby Thomas - as in Tom Turkey? Assuming it is a boy of course.<BR/><BR/>So I want to know how much all your babies weighed? I'm big into knowing the weights of babies because I've birthed some serious Amazonian children - size wise.Janahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01505982048644723257noreply@blogger.com